I am now offering body positivity talks and workshops!
Ever feel like loving your body is a ridiculously big ask? It can be hard enough just to say “It’s okay.” I can never remember a time when I liked my body.
Body positivity is awesome… but to jiggle around in a bikini like the gorgeous plus size women on Instagram just feels like a BIG JUMP. Sometimes, body confident people can be inspiring but they can also remind us of our own lack of confidence, and that we’ve got a long way to go. Self-acceptance is a long journey and it’s a hard thing to do alone. That’s why I’m here. I’m not “cured” of my body image and self-esteem issues (is anyone ever?) but I’m here to help you find your way on your own journey to self-love.
I was bullied as a child, not just by the mean kids at school but by adults who should’ve known better. I have always been fat, short, female and definitely not normal, whatever “normal” means. I wore baggy clothes to hide my body and I kept my arms folded across my stomach. I was always picked last for sports team (it’s such a cliché but it happens) and I always came last in cross-country. I was even given a “clap” for coming last on one occasion – the entire class had to applaud me for “having a go” according to the teacher. I was about eight years old, in primary school. When things like this are said to you as a child, they stick, sometimes forever. These negative voices become part of your normal thinking.
“Normal” can be pretty dangerous.
I was never normal, but I secretly wanted to be normal because I felt so much pressure to be, yet I pretended I didn’t want to be normal because I also wanted to be a cool non-conformist.
So you could say being “normal” has been a complex issue for me.
Over the years of extensive travelling, counselling, yoga, reading and learning, self-exploration and a fair bit of crying, I’ve somehow found my way on to a positive path to tackle my self-esteem and body images issues. The learning journey may last a lifetime but I’m just glad to be on the right path and I want – and NEED – people on that path with me. We need a body positive revolution to combat all the appearance-based judgementalism and stigma in our society.
I make YouTube videos, write blogs and am writing a book about body image and self-esteem. I co-run a storytelling event with my writing group and believe that sharing our own true stories can be so powerful. My talks always involve stories from my own life in the hope that other people can relate to them and we can move forward together so we can be kinder to ourselves and others, and create a more accepting, compassionate world.
To book me as a speaker, get in touch through the “hire me” page.